In my last relationship I loved going away without the boyfriend. Travelling for work treated me to a few nights away with no drama and when I visited my family I never pushed the Ex into coming and was slightly relieved whenever he said he couldn?t come.
I figured this was fairly normal, I needed time to myself and I don?t think there?s anything wrong with that. Surprise surprise that 
relationship ended.
Since being with the Pool Boy I?ve only spent one or two nights away from him for girls trips to Sydney. Any other trips and try to make sure he can come and holidays to family are planned with him very much in mind and when he can?t come I?m not relieved in the slightest.
While talking to the Pool Boy over the phone we had this realisation that we actually really like each other. His brother was in a two year relationship and always talked about how much he loved it when he went away or she went away. They seemed to love each other but I?m not sure if they really liked each other.
Am I making sense? Probably not.
This may seem silly that at 25 I?ve only just had this realisation, that a relationship should contain a heavy dose of friendship in there, something that I?ve never really thought about till now.
My Ex is someone I?d never be friends with, something easier said now than 3 years ago.
The Pool Boy is someone I can easily see myself being friends with and being away from him affirms that. He?s the person I go to first to share what?s been happening and love debriefing with him at the end of the day.
I know this doesn?t apply to everyone, people want different things out of a partner. But there?s certainly something to this friendship side of it.
Do you think relationships need friendship?
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About Blondie
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